Children and young people who have displayed harmful sexual behaviour are in danger of being excluded by those around them and feeling self-hatred. They usually have a complicated and vulnerable past, and as equal a need as the victim to be cared for. They need reassuring adults who are interested in trying to understand the root of the behaviour, and who make it clear they want to help the child with their struggles. The correct way to speak depends on the age and function of the child. Keep them informed of what is happening.